Delightful Dating – Part Two
Laughter, Love, or
Lust—The Fun Date...
If it is fun that you
want, rest assured that anyone you date will be in complete agreement.
Beyond that, the challenge will be to come up with something that both
of you would consider to actually be fun.
Take time to explore
some mutual interests and then plan something around one of them. Also,
the previous section on “First Dates” has some good ideas for fun times
that are generic enough to be appreciated by both parties on a first
time date. However, once you have moved on to further dating, try to do
things that you both enjoy. After several dates, you can begin asking
the other person to try some things out that would be new to them,
although, very familiar to you. If they are agreeable and not made to
feel uncomfortable, the new experience might be one that brings the two
of you closer together. It could also serve as an indication that
something you truly enjoy is not going to be anything that the two of
you will be sharing together should a relationship develop.
And finally, a
warning to the guys.
Listen, men, not every woman wants sex on the first date; or the second
date; or even the third date. Forcing yourself on someone to have a
little “fun” is not how we define a fun date. If she is receptive to
you, that is one thing; but if she does not respond, then back off. If
you feel that she is the one for you, be patient. It may take longer,
but you will be glad you waited and she will feel that much better about
you. The other option, should you decide to push yourself on her, means
that you will be out looking again for someone to date.
Connected—The Internet Date...
Okay, you’ve found
someone online that you really like and they like you, too. You’d really
like to meet him/her face-to-face. Now what? One of the best and worst
things about singles meeting via the Internet is the return of
old-fashioned first dates - with the added concern of personal safety
when meeting a virtual stranger. Picking a place to meet, an activity
to share, things to talk about—it can seem a bit overwhelming;
especially when you really want to make a good impression.
The amazing thing
about online relationships is that two people are able to get to know
each other quite well (should they take the time to do so via e-mail and
numerous online chats) before actually meeting. They can even send each
other photo snapshots via the net as well as any other information each
is willing to share with the other. The point is that, unlike
traditional dating, it does not take several times out together to glean
all of this information. It has already been done online. In fact,
these types of first meetings have the feel of finally being able to
spend some real time with a friend. However, one must always be aware
that there are those who are not truly genuine. Of course, that can
also happen just as often, if not more so, using the traditional
Mr./Mrs. Right—The Serious Date...
Some people date just
for the fun of it. Married people enjoy their date nights out together
as well. However, there are those who are seriously looking for that
special someone. No one should fault them. In fact, their
determination to find the right person to begin a permanent relationship
with is the primary purpose of why we date in the first place.
The thought here is
that those who are serious daters should be very careful not to put the
other person in the uncomfortable situation of being over-scrutinized.
Go easy and take your time. If love is meant to be, it will happen
Remember, too, that
men fall in love easier than women. They tend to look (the visual
thing) before they leap (the sex thing). Good, long-term relationships
are built over an extended period of time. It is one thing to find the
right person; it is another thing to maintain a right relationship.
Expectations—The Third Date...
Women know about
it, talk about it, laugh about it, and sometimes vent about it with
their lady friends after some guy has tried it on them once again. Some
men try it on the first date, but every gal knows that the third date is
usually the charmer. Of course, the ladies are not completely blameless
on this count. Some women are more than ready on the first date,
whereas, others would really rather wait for a while until they are sure
about the guy. Again, one cannot force themselves on someone. Men who
have to persuade, cajole, and convince a woman to go to bed with them
need to realize that if it doesn’t happen naturally, then it shouldn’t
be happening at all...at least not if you would like to go out on a